Ryan O’Neal’s life was marked by fame, controversy, and tangled relationships — and even after his death, those themes linger. The Hollywood star, once a romantic lead in Love Story and Barry Lyndon, died on December 8, 2023, at 82, after battling leukemia and prostate cancer; the official cause of death was congestive heart failure. In his final photos, he appeared frail, a stark contrast to the heartthrob audiences remembered. His long, often turbulent relationship with Charlie’s Angels icon Farrah Fawcett was both tabloid fodder and a tragic love story, especially as they struggled to raise their son, Redmond, whose life has been marred by substance abuse and serious mental health issues and who was in a California state hospital at the time of his father’s funeral.

O’Neal’s complicated bond with his other children was just as painful. Redmond refused to see him, and several of Ryan’s other children didn’t attend his small memorial at Westwood Memorial Park. Griffin O’Neal, his son with Joanna Moore, said he wasn’t invited, calling himself “the hated son who told the truth” and claiming Ryan “never” apologized. Ryan’s daughter, Tatum O’Neal, also had a famously strained relationship with him, and he once called himself a “hopeless father.” Yet in the final years of his life, father and daughter found some peace: after Tatum suffered a drug overdose and stroke in 2020, they reconnected, and she later said she felt “very lucky” they ended on good terms.

Ryan was buried beside Farrah Fawcett, whose gravestone had long left space for him, symbolizing a desire to preserve their powerful, if volatile, love story in death. But even that decision sparked debate. Farrah’s former college boyfriend, Greg Lott, and her friend and producer Craig Nevius claimed Ryan and his circle ignored her wishes and took control at the end of her life, arguing she hadn’t wanted a public burial or monument. In contrast, their friend Alana Stewart defended Ryan, insisting he never took advantage of Farrah and describing their relationship as deep and complicated, saying, “She died in his arms,” and remembering him as both volatile and incredibly sweet and generous.

Patrick O’Neal, Ryan’s youngest son and a sportscaster, has taken it upon himself to defend his father’s legacy. He organized the small memorial and pushed back publicly against critics, warning that those who misrepresented Ryan would be “called out.” Patrick also expressed anger when Ryan was left out of the January 2024 Emmys “In Memoriam” segment, calling the snub “sad and mad,” and continued lobbying until his father was later included in a revised tribute. In the end, Ryan O’Neal’s story is one of dazzling career highs alongside deep personal fractures — a reminder that the glow of stardom doesn’t erase the complexity of the family left behind, nor the lasting impact of the roles that made him unforgettable.