My first birthday as a married woman was meant to be simple—just friends, food, and peace. Instead, I was mid-makeup when my father-in-law Richard barged in, threw a shirt at me, and demanded I iron it and make him a sandwich. “You’re good at women stuff, right?” he said.

I smiled and said, “Give me fifteen minutes.” Then I scorched the shirt on purpose and made the worst sandwich I could imagine—sardines, raw onion, peanut butter on stale rye. I served it to him with a cheerful “Here you go!” in front of the family.

He was furious. “You embarrassed me!” he snapped. “No,” I said, “you embarrassed yourself. On my birthday. In my house.” Nick backed me up. Molly called it overdue. Richard stormed off, only to return in a wrinkled old shirt, saying nothing.

Later, he confronted me. I told him: Susie left because she was done serving. So am I. If he wants to be part of our lives, respect is the price. He ended up ironing the shirt himself—badly. But he wore it. And that night, I gave myself the best birthday gift: boundaries.