Monica Lewinsky has spent the last three decades reclaiming her narrative after being thrust into the spotlight following her affair with President Bill Clinton. In a candid interview on the How to Fail podcast with Elizabeth Day, Lewinsky opened up about her experiences, reflecting on the emotional complexity of her relationship with Clinton, and the power imbalance that defined it. At just 22 years old, she was a young woman caught in a situation where the dynamics of power were heavily skewed, leading her to view the experience as both a love affair and an abuse of power.

In her conversation, Lewinsky criticized how the Clinton administration spun the narrative, contributing to her portrayal as a “dumb bimbo” and the subsequent public shaming she faced. This perception, she noted, was exacerbated by society, especially women, who participated in the degradation. The damage to her reputation was irreversible, even after Clinton admitted to the affair. Reflecting on the psychological toll, Lewinsky acknowledged the emotional scars of being painted as mentally unstable and the collateral damage inflicted on other women of her generation, who witnessed her public humiliation and learned harsh lessons about gender-based judgment.

Now, as a 51-year-old woman, Lewinsky has made peace with who she is, though she admits she would have preferred a more “normal life” free from the intense scrutiny that defined her early adulthood. However, she emphasizes that her story is not about pity, but about perspective. Lewinsky calls for society to pause and reflect on how far we have come—or not come—in treating women fairly, especially those caught in imbalanced power dynamics.

Lewinsky’s reflections offer a profound reminder of the continued struggles women face in the media, politics, and society. Her call for reflection resonates strongly in today’s culture, where cancel culture and online shaming persist. The question remains: are we truly ready to learn from past mistakes and treat women with the respect they deserve, or are we simply repeating old patterns in new forms?